Day in the life of a children’s worker

No two days are ever quite the same when you support children and young people affected by domestic abuse.

My day usually begins with checking my diary and gathering everything I need for the sessions ahead. My car can often look like a travelling playroom, filled with puppets, Lego, emotion cards, colouring materials, games and sensory toys.

Although the activities may look simple, each one has a purpose. Play and creativity can help children explore difficult experiences in a way that feels safe and manageable.

Many sessions take place in schools. We may begin with an emotional check-in before exploring topics such as feelings, anger, worries, boundaries, consent, healthy relationships and safety.

Sometimes we build an anger volcano, use Lego to represent happy homes or help puppets solve a problem. Other times, a child simply needs space to talk and be listened to.

Children who have experienced domestic abuse can hold many complicated emotions. They may love someone while also feeling frightened, angry or disappointed by their behaviour. Our role is not to tell them how they should feel, but to listen without judgement and help them make sense of their experiences.

We also help children understand that all emotions are valid, that abuse is never their fault and that they deserve to feel safe.

After each session, I write case notes, respond to any safeguarding concerns and work alongside parents, schools and other professionals. I also prepare activities that suit each individual child, because no two children communicate or learn in the same way.

Progress is not always a huge breakthrough. Sometimes it is a child naming an emotion, identifying a trusted adult or recognising that controlling and hurtful behaviour is not part of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes it is simply a child arriving quietly and leaving with a smile.

The work can be emotionally demanding, but it is also full of hope. Every game, conversation and creative activity carries the same message:

Your feelings matter. You deserve to feel safe. None of this was your fault.