Domestic abuse and older people

A hidden issue that deserves attention

When people think about domestic abuse, they often imagine it affecting younger women or families with young children. However, the reality is that domestic abuse can affect people at any stage of life, including older women.

For many older people, abuse can remain hidden for years or even decades. Raising awareness of this issue is essential to ensure that older victims know they are not alone and that support is available.

Abuse in later life can take many forms
Domestic abuse is not always physical. It can include a range of behaviours used to control, manipulate or harm someone.

For older women, abuse may include:

• Financial abuse, such as a partner controlling money, pensions or savings
• Coercive control, including monitoring movements or isolating someone from friends and family
• Emotional or psychological abuse, including threats, humiliation or intimidation
• Neglect or withholding care, particularly where someone has health needs
• Technology-facilitated abuse, such as monitoring phones, devices or bank accounts

Sometimes the abuse may come from a partner or ex-partner, while in other situations it may involve adult children, family members or carers.

Why abuse in older age can remain hidden
Older people may face additional barriers when it comes to recognising abuse or seeking help.

Some may have lived with controlling behaviour for many years and may not identify it as abuse. Others may worry about losing their home, their independence or their relationship with family members if they speak out.

There can also be concerns about:

• Being believed
• Burdening others
• Financial security
• Health needs or caring responsibilities
• Feeling that support services are “not for them”

These barriers can make it much harder for older victims to reach out for help.

No one is ever too old to seek support
Everyone deserves to feel safe, respected and supported in their relationships, regardless of their age.

Support services exist to help people understand their options, talk through their experiences and access practical support. Even having a conversation with a trusted professional can be the first step towards feeling safer and more in control.

At Broxtowe Women’s Project, we recognise that women of all ages may need support. Our services aim to provide a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space where women can talk about what they are experiencing and explore the help available to them.

Creating awareness and understanding
By talking more openly about domestic abuse in later life, we can help break down the stigma and ensure older people feel able to reach out for support.

Friends, neighbours, family members and professionals can also play an important role by recognising the signs of abuse and knowing how to respond safely and sensitively.

Domestic abuse is not limited by age. With greater awareness and community support, we can ensure that older victims are seen, heard and supported.

If you or someone you know may be experiencing domestic abuse, support is available. 

You are not alone.